About Nicola
Who I Am
Faith-led connection coach.
Hello — I'm Nicola.
I'm a faith-led connection coach who knows what it's like to be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. I'm South African born Chinese — SABC, for my South African friends — and I grew up as part of a minority group, often feeling like I didn't quite fit in.
Then in my forties I moved countries — from South Africa to Australia — and then cities, from Brisbane to Adelaide, right in the middle of a pandemic. I know how isolating that kind of transition can feel. The kind of loneliness where you're surrounded by people and still wonder if anyone really knows you.
These challenging seasons taught me many valuable lessons — not just about surviving loneliness, but about actually building connection from scratch. And they changed what I believe about friendship.
Before and after
Before
- — Playing the "I'm not interesting enough" loop on repeat
- — Standing at the edge of rooms, watching other people connect
- — Surrounded by people, and still deeply lonely
- — Thinking friendship was something that happened to other people
After
- Understanding friendship as a skill — learnable, buildable, repeatable
- Taking one brave, well-guided step and watching it compound
- Rebuilding connection in a new city, from scratch, as a woman in her forties
- Helping other women do the same — and watching it work
What I believe about friendship
I've played the "I'm not interesting" thought loop in my head. I know you have your own version looping in yours. And I know the loop can be broken — when you take one brave, well-guided step a day.
"Friendship shouldn't be a mystery reserved for extroverts. It's a skill, a rhythm, and a gift we can build together."
My faith grounds everything I do — not as a barrier or a prerequisite, but as the reason I care so deeply about women being genuinely known and loved. Connection coaching that's grounded in faith, built for real life.
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